Friday, December 11, 2009

in memory of...and...remember...

my mom died at Christmas three years ago...and there is no other time of year that I think of her more...this is the mouse that I bought her when I was a teenager...spent about 25 dollars back then (30 plus years ago)...that was a lot of money for me...and now he has a broken tail and chips...but I so love him...
Mom gave me this candle holder a few years before she died...it is part of a mini shrine that is on my bookshelf in her honor...,
this Mary was given to me at my first Communion...reminds me of a simpler day...no computers or emails or facebook...just cards and pretty dresses and bonnets...(oh, this ages me...)
and this picture...one of my very favorite possessions ever...my mom did this bumpy paint by number picture when she was young...and I am so lucky to have it...
why this post now? It is the most wonderful time of year, and for some the most stressful. Family members that you don't see often, Christmas trees that get put up...(and don't know about you, but how many lights and where it goes in the room, and who fills it with water every day...you get the picture)...and sometimes, for some, some sad memories...
If your parents are still alive, or if you don't tell your kids that you love them every day, I would suggest that you do...there are so many moments that I wish I had told my mom more often...and now that chance is gone.

I am happy to say that our tree event went so very well this year- my teenager made the decisions this year about lights. He chose BLUE lights (never, ever have I had blue lights!)...and he strung them himself. Wasn't sure how I would like that...but I feel like I am living in WHOVILLE...and I LOVE it!!! (pics on another post...)
so...hope your holidays(and events leading up to it...) are fun , stress free...and I hope you say" I LOVE YOU" to those you love...

9 comments:

Gail said...

Mel,
What a sweet post about your mom! My favorite picture is of that mouse because I see the pic of you and your mom behind it! How cute is that?
I lost my mom the day after Christmas a few years ago so I know how you feel, thank goodness I have my dd and dh to pull me through this time...it can be difficult.
Take care and stay warm, we have possible freezing rain or snow to look forward to today...how about you?

Celticlass said...

Your adorable little mouse brought me to your blog. What a loving testament to your Mom. I am sure you made her Christmas. My heart is with you at this time.
Many Blessings for a wonderful Christmas,
Erin
PS: I miss those pretty dresses and simpler times too! Guess that dates me as well.

GARAGE SALE GAL said...

Your Christmas's are bittersweet...
Love your vintage houses .
I hope you have a great weekend.
Warmly,
Deb :)

Andy's Attic said...

Such wonderful words about your mom. I can tell how much you miss her. She will live forever in your heart.
Merry Christmas,
Annette

Sandy said...

I know exactly how you feel! I lost my Dad 9 days before Christmas in 1982, every year it is like it just happened! I lost my Mom 14 months before that....I was a new Mom and a new wife, and not ready to be orphaned....but I try very very hard to remember the good times at Christmas, and to give my boys a wonderful CHristmas so they have good memories when I am gone.....thanks for this post!

vintagebetti said...

Thank you for sharing such personal thoughts with your blog followers.. I feel blessed to still have my mom and dad, and try to never take for granted that they are still with me. Thanks for reminding me that even though it feels like they'll be here forever, the reality is, they won't.

Happy holidays and enjoy the blue lights! Another memory created.. 10 years from now "hey mom, remember when I put all blue lights on our tree"? Enjoy!

Denise said...

what a beautiful rememberance to your mother....I love all the things you have that hold a special place in your heart. As a child, we always went to the cememtary first thing on Christmas eve to put a wreath on my dads grave. Then my mom always made it such a wonderful Christmas. Its hard sometimes but hang on the wonderful memories and know she wants you to have a wonderful Christmas.

Ramona said...

Good Morning ~ This is a lovely post...thank you for sharing. Your Mother sounds like a wonderful woman. Blessings to you and yours this holiday season. My Mom gave me a little mouse that I have above the kitchen sink...makes me feel as though she is right there with me.

Merry Christmas.

Smiles ~ Ramona

marooter said...

Hi! I just found your blog as I was 'blog-hopping', enjoying everyone's vintage Christmas decorations. I was so excited to learn that you are in Portland! I live in Gresham! Such a small world! I can't wait to visit your shop very soon...I will try to make it to your sale this weekend. I also lost my Mom a year ago Dec 2nd...its still strange to think of her as gone, but her memory lives on in her extensive Santa collection, which we displayed at her Memorial gathering, and allowed each guest to take one home. New Year's blessings to you!
P.S. Your pictures of the 'surprise snowstorm' are beautiful! My son was so excited as he had been praying for snow since school got out! (o;